Thursday, June 3, 2010

At A Loss

I promise I won't only post about potty training forever. But this is my hell life right now. I can't even describe in words the level of complete cluelessness I feel. I know it's silly, but I feel like a total failure. I know, I know. It's not a reflection of my parenting. But in the moment, it feels like it is.

I've done this before. #3 should be a piece of cake. At the very least, it shouldn't be stressing me out so much. I've talked alot about compartmentalizing my life and I think for the most part it does help with the day in day out trials of mommyhood. But it's not fail-proof. And I think, for a mommy especially, it's nearly impossible to totally compartmentalize. We are hard-wired to our babes, and it would be completely unrealistic to think that a mom could separate herself entirely from her child's trials and failures.

So where does that leave me? I am totally at a loss. 2.5 months we've been at this. Two steps forward, 1 GIANT step back. Rinse and repeat. And I am failing miserably at "keeping my cool". I know the first piece of advice anything you read about potty training will say, "Don't get angry. Just keep encouraging your child. Don't allow yourself to get frustrated."

Can we step into the real world please? Tell me, HOW is one to not get angry or frustrated or completely beaten down when you are cleaning poop out of panties two times a day, or wake up to find a nice pile on the floor. This morning instead of cuddling up on the couch with the princesses, hubby got to break out the upholstery cleaner and clean the couch. Not how we wanted to start the day. I have completely gone PAST frustration with this. More than our fair share of tears have been shed over this and not just by Princess #3. Stick a fork in me, I'm done.


  1. I'm sorry that it is all so frustrating. I've been there... but I gave up a long time ago. Until C is interested there is no point in me killing myself trying. Granted, I have a whole slew of other issues going on. I guess I am just trying to encourage you and let you know that if you need to table potty training for a bit it doesn't make you any less of a mother. *hugs*

  2. It sure can be tough. I was lucky with potty training Little Chick. I stayed home for a week and just had her close to the potty. But perhaps you need to take a little break from it ans start back up in a couple of months. Just an idea.

    Mama Hen

  3. HUGS!!! Ethan was a stubborn one too! Hang in there, she WILL get it. She will not go to kindergarten (or preschool) in diapers!

  4. God love you!
    One day you too will have a hard time remembering how frustrating this can be but the smell of morning poop awaiting a clean-up will always be vivid!! Thanks for the jolt of memory.

  5. Oh sweet lady, I hear you. With both my boys. Masters of the pee, no sweat. The poop, oh the poop.

    I finally gave up with Oldest at 4 - he did his duty (doodie) in a diaper and cleaned himself (TMI? Sorry.) The kid could schedule his visits. By 4 1/2, he just walked in and did it and we never looked back.

    Youngest - same control issue - and I totally think it's a control thing. I gave in much earlier to him grabbing a diaper for #2. Pooping in the potty just before his 4th birthday.

    I'm sure there's moms out there who are shaking their head me, but the fights just were not worth it. Or the constipation.

    Big hug.

  6. "Don't get angry. Just keep encouraging your child. Don't allow yourself to get frustrated."

    Allow me a moment while I ROFLMAO (and maybe even PIMP a little too, for good measure!). Hahahahahahaaaa!

    Yeah. Miss P has seen me turn into a googly eyed banshee over this pottytraining B.S. a few times now.
    I was actually SHOCKED she didn't poop in her swim diaper when at the pool yesterday. Within minutes of getting home she ran into the bathroom screeching "I gotta poop in the potty!". So I felt my hope inch up a few millimeters about that. But overall this pottytraining crap is just crap (literally) and if misery loves company, you've got a BFF in me.


  7. I was there with my son. I know how hard and frustrating this can be. I would get so upset about it and now looking back getting upset never helped the situation. He finally got it but there was a time I really thought he was going to be in diapers when he entered Kindergarten. I finally just let it all go and let him do it on his own and it worked like a charm. :)


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